05 June 2008

Struck

Just yesterday, a group of men came in to the café where I work. There was probably five to six men in the group.Their ages probably ranged from mid thirties to late fifties, or maybe even sixties. One man, in particular, had grey hair and a wrinkled expression.
That isn't exceptional, persay.

What struck me was when the man in his mid-forties began playing patty-cake with me. And, the man in his sixties went on nagging him in the manner we attribute to small children. That was about the time I noticed their care-taker, a middle-aged Asian man, directing them through the café.

How strange, I thought, that men of this age would be mentally handicap. Then, I went on thinking. I wonder how old they are, mentally. I wonder if it really works like that. I wonder what their disabilities are. I thought most handicap persons don't live that long.
Perhaps that is why it seemed strange.

As they left, however, I found myself questioning - not them, but me.
Why did I find that so suprising, or even stranger yet, disarming? Why was I so struck? What implications did that have on my perspective and/or attitudes toward mentally handicap individuals? What did this reveal about myself?

I haven't exactly come to a conclusion. Partially, I still feel quite stunned by the occurance. Partially, ashamed. I suppose for the most part, however, the event brings up both interesting thoughts/questions I have about people with mental handicaps and thoughts/questions I have about my own mental handicaps in dealing with exceptional situations.

03 June 2008

This is how I was convinced to join the Army:

Two Army-Guys are talking to two different groups of people. As I approach, bike on hand, it is immediately apparent that they are on the recruitment trail. I pass them, mentally considering being in this vacinity is more-than-not likely to be a bad idea.
One of said Army-Guys is reasonably talking (albeit far too excitedly) to one woman. The other has an outright entourage. He is the Army-Guy who will, in just moments, approach me as I engage in the very-clearly solitary act of stretching beside my bike. He is sporting his awesome Army hat and his amazing Army camo-getup. I am bending down to touch my toes.

Army-Guy: I see you're stretching. What do you do other than ride your bike and stretch?

I stand up and have to get hair out of my face.

Me (still streching): Oh, I work up here at the mall.
Army-Guy (pointing at my shirt): Yeah, the gelato place.
Me: Yeah.

He starting handing me a card.

Army-Guy: Have you--
Me: Oh, no no. (waving my hands no as well) I'm really not interested.
Army-Guy: Why not?
Me: Oh, my dad works with the military.
Army-Guy: What does he do?
Me: I don't really know. He works with computers.
Army-Guy: What branch? Is he "babble I don't understand"? Or, is he a "more babble I don't understand"?
Me: Well, he's not employed by the military. He just works with them.
Army-Guy: Is he a defense contractor?
Me: I don't really know.
Army-Guy: Does he work for a company like Raetheon?
Me: Yeah, something like that.
Army-Guy: Raetheon is a defense contractor. That's what they do.
Me: Okay.
Army-Guy: So what do you do? Go to school?
Me: No, I'm actually done with school.
Army-Guy: Oh, so a high school diploma - got that out of the way.
Me: (offended) No.
Army-Guy: Oh, so a college degree - got that out of the way.
Me: Yeah.
Army-Guy: So what are you doing?
Me: I just work here at the mall.
Army-Guy: Do you manage the place?
Me: No, I just work here.
Army-Guy: Well did you ever (goes for the business card again)--.

I almost say: "Look, I know you are only talking to me because you want to recuit me and get some more money. You don't actually care what I have to say and that's why I'm so not interested in talking to you." But I decide against it.

Me: Look, I'm just really not interested.
Army-Guy: You know, "Education is Power". Have you ever heard that?
Me: Yes.
Army-Guy: Just check it out: Goarmy-dot-com.
Me: Yeah okay.
Army-Guy (as he meets up with his friend): She has a college degree and....blah blah blah, some rude stuff I don't hear.
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Now, keep in mind that the above conversation really did go just like that.

Thanks for the degradement and harassment, US Army.